New Year’s Eve is a sad time for people who define their worth by whether or not they have a date or a kiss at midnight. What is so important about New Year’s Eve anyway? It’s just one night in a whole year of adventures. The real celebration is New Year’s Day! On New Year’s Day, you get a fresh start. 365 days of wonder lie before you. And you are the creator of each of those days. You get to call the shots. What do you want to create in your life? Want a more interesting job? Want more respectful friends? Want a more loving partner? Want a more confident attitude? It’s all possible. You have the power to create it. The power is in your brain. Your brain has an automatic process for creation and change. Every time you think new thoughts, your brain creates new neurotransmitter paths. Those new paths change your brain by expanding it. The more new thoughts, the more expansion, and soon you’ve changed your old patterns into new ideas. As you turn those ideas into actions, you create the change you want. This isn’t about making resolutions. It’s about using the power of your brain to take responsibility for your life. After all, it is YOUR life. Oh, you can make all the excuses you want about why you can’t do this or can’t change that, but every excuse means you are excusing yourself from taking responsibility. If you are sitting around waiting for circumstances to change, you are shirking your responsibility. Your current circumstances aren’t going to change unless you take responsibility for changing them. Use the power of your brain to think about one small change you can make. The thinking will create a sense of competence. The more competent you feel about your coping skills, the less you will fear change. Before you know it, that one small change will lead to another. If you are trying to change someone to be what you want, you are shirking your responsibility. Use the power of your brain to think about what you are doing. You have no right to change others. Their lives are their own. They get to chose how to live. You get to chose whether to accept or reject them. Focus your energy and brain power on changing yourself. If you are waiting for other people to make you happy, you are shirking your responsibility. It’s important to understand that happiness comes from within, not from other people. Use the power of your brain to think about what makes you happy and lifts your spirits. It’s selfish to expect others to make you happy. They are not responsible for your life. They have their own lives to live. Taking responsibility for your happiness puts you in charge. If you are dreaming of a soul mate to complete you, you are shirking your responsibility. Use the power of your brain to think about what a healthy relationship means. It consists of two independent individuals who respect and love one another. No one needs to complete you; you are not half a person. You are a whole person who is complete whether or not you are in a relationship. The stronger and more independent you become, the more likely you will attract someone who will respect you. The bottom line is you don’t need anything outside yourself to change your life. So let the excuses go out with the old year and celebrate the New Year by using that brain of yours. Your brain has the power to create anything you want.