A friend sold her tickets to an event she had been excited about attending. She said she was too afraid to go since the Las Vegas tragedy. Exposure to trauma, even when experienced remotely through the media, can create fear in us. Sometimes, our fear can overwhelm our reason and take control of our choices. Maybe our fear decides it is too dangerous for us to attend a concert or a movie or a sporting event. Unaddressed, our fear can grow and make other choices, maybe deciding it’s too dangerous for us to drive or take a walk or leave our home. We can maintain our emotional balance by allowing ourselves to stop and rethink the fear. That rethinking allows us to feel, understand and process our fear. Part of that process is addressing our coping skills. For example, if we fear attending a concert, we can help ourselves feel less fearful by preparing for the event. Maybe we study the venue, make ourselves aware of the exits and rehearse in our minds what we could do in case of an emergency. Preparation cannot guarantee we won’t face danger in life, but the more competent we feel about our coping skills the less we will fear living our lives. Living life means facing the unknown – both the good and the bad experiences. If we allow our fear to stop us from living our lives, we deny ourselves happiness.